Joseph Terlizzi , a New York-based colon and rectal surgeon, for the lowdown on how gay and bi men can prepare, how to do the deed, and how to stay safe post-coital. Check out his expert advice on how to make anal sex more pleasurable:. While maintaining anal hygiene is important, people tend to be too fastidious when it comes to cleaning up before anal intercourse. Common mistakes I see patients make include using chemical wipes the perfumes and preservatives make them irritating and wiping too much friction can lead to abrasions. This causes the skin around the anus to become inflamed, leading to thickening and ultimately itching or discomfort with sex. So forget the harsh scents and chemicals — before sex, simply clean the outside of the anus well in the shower or bath with plain water or a very gentle soap. Fiber helps bulk up stool and decreases liquidity, further minimizing the chance of a mess. In general, men should consume grams of fiber per day, and women should consume grams of fiber per day. While enemas may seem like a logical way to avoid an embarrassing interaction, I strongly advise against them.
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I'm a year-old male student and I'm gay. I came out fairly recently and I'm feeling optimistic about my love life. I've received a decent amount of sexual interest from other gay men and would like to have a relationship. But I'm terrified of bottoms.
He explained that sides enjoy practically every sexual practice aside from anal penetration and choose to be sexually peripheral, so to speak, rather than on the top or the bottom. Well, kinda. Gay people are part of that mix. Jim attempts to further reassure me by explaining what led him to become a side. As such, for years during the height of the AIDS epidemic, Jim assumed he was HIV-positive while remaining sexually active, always stopping short of anal sex. Five years later, he had a blood test that revealed him to be, in fact, negative. That was the start of my being a side. Luckily, I give an amazing blow job.
We are all pretty obsessed with penetration. And if you were to believe pornography—something that, at this stage, we should all know is not an accurate sexual how-to guide—anal sex is the ultimate goal when two guys get together. Dating back to the ancient Greece, anal sex played a role in the expression of same-sex sexuality albeit, with fewer varieties of lube. The art of anal sex is the thing that, both positively and negatively, has come to represent gay men. Rather, gay sex is more like firing up your PlayStation and playing Fallout 4. To limit oneself to just a single flavor is to shut out a smorgasbord of new experiences. Of course, culturally and historically, gay men have been narrowed down where the act of sex itself defines us. But really, if we minimize anal sex and place it on the same shelf as oral or masturbation, how much pressure would that alleviate?