Amasa enjoys art, music, and traveling. These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term. I disagree with the doctrines and practices of the LDS church. Being married and raising a family can be very difficult if the two of you disagree about important issues like religion. Certainly there are such people in the church, but there are such people in any organization, and I would challenge you to remember that the members are also individuals with thoughts, feelings and the ability to rebel in their own ways. If he has to work late call a girlfriend or paint a picture. Nothing fixed that issue in me as fast as being almost inseparably bound to a woman that pushed back and kicked screaming against the pricks every time I wanted to make some sort of spiritual effort. I recommend that talk.
My 2 younger children are entering middle school soon. Ask her rhetorically if she would dump her religion for her true love. Several of the apostles have grown up in part member homes. This guy was orbiting so strongly that he changed his religion before they were even dating. Unless you convert she won't marry you, plain and simple. I've been in a similar situation before. And after dating a few months we both knew we wanted to get married. So basically we were lies to for years. If she is still Mormon and you are not, she will always secretly hope that you convert, just like you will always secretly hope she leaves the church.
Mormonism is a lot more controlling and has a lot more downsides. Finally, the decision of whom you marry is really between you and God. Unfortunately, I can't answer the questions about marrying him etc. We can also save our errant children by our valiancy too. She still lives in her hometown though. And you seem like a good person. Then the girl decided still not to date him after all. Women do not get to hold the priesthood and function in an equal role with men. Just know that she has been indoctrinated to believe that she wont reach the highest level of heaven if she isn't married in a Mormon temple to another Mormon.
Of course she won't want to watch something that in her mind attacks her religion. Because what are Mormons about. I have missed the Church in some ways, and certainly the blessings of a temple marriage. Jack is right about the demographics. Eventually I hope each wards get to a point where they know that as a ward family our job is simply to make sure that each person, member or non member knows that when they enter the house of the Lord, they are loved. Whereas white and black may both sleep in on Sunday and tie their left shoes first, Mos have a set of behavioral norms that are in serious conflict with Nomo lifestyles. We have a strong relationship, so I am lucky - but lately the demands of family are becoming a bit too much to handle - and I really don't know how to 'deal' with my inlaws and 'sharing' my husband with them. Learn more about the LDS Church. It sounds like you HAVE done your best in the past.