Her beliefs are innocous but ultimately a death sentence for this relationship. We are now in Residency, have moved each year and started a new adventure each year since marriage. She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious. What about the folks at church. If we can say them together, great; if not. Sometimes I complain to my kids and to my husband. I'm sorry, but I don't pity you all. Qlee, what do YOU need. You might need to trade missionary lessons for research on her part, and we can suggest less scary resources.
I'm always torn between wanting to spend time together doing loads of fun things and giving him space to pursue his dream. Jesus might have seemed like a cute, imaginary playmate at first, but on some level I would have been expecting to help her get over it. Sometimes you might even get jealous of the patients since they seem to get to even see your 'doctor' more than you do.
Please realize I know how the church works, was extremely active and raised good kids. Totally hated it too. I hope to be able to love nurses as I once did for many years. Sometimes it's easy to forget all the wonderful times we had together before he got into med school. These insane hours are wearing on me and I fear what has happened to so many I know will start to happen to us. The thing is I didn't want to marry someone who I'd never see or spend time with. Sounds like classic "flirt to convert. She asked me to read that site and write down questions. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much.
That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. This is starting to upset me though and I'm tired of waiting for change, so how should I approach the conversation. God told me to marry my husband.